life is like that part-4

What do you do when you don’t know what to do?

The simplest yet the most difficult question- do we just give up to the situation or fight against it. Even by giving up are we making the right decision or by settling for less we are actually compromising on our heart’s desire?

The difficulty here is that we will never know the consequences of our decisions until we finally made them. So are we willing to take that chance or are we not? That’s what the real question is. As it says one bird in hand is worth than two in bush.

So should we embrace the first chance that we get or should we let our dreams wander free in sky.

What if it is the bad choice to let our dreams fly? What if by missing the first opportunity we are actually sacrificing our future…

Is that really a heavy price to pay or are we willing to take the risk for a better life. For better or for worse I choose the particular road and I am the one responsible for my reactions- can this always justify what we do? Or should we be ruled by the society norms.

So many what if’s yet so little answers?  Why do we let the society govern us? Shouldn’t we be the decision makers of our future?

Our parents always tell us to follow our dreams but when it actually comes to make those critical choices or decisions in our life we feel the pressure and tension. Its not like they are forcing us to do something yet deep down our subconscious stops us from following what exactly we wanna do and tel the society norms and rules govern us.

The simplest example is of class 11^th when we first choose our streams for building our future the core foundation of our life ahead. Somehow there itself the pressure of society starts building on. No matter how much you think of psychology as a good subject or you think of studying political sciences yet as you are intelligent students you are supposed to go for sciences. Is that fair?

So what do you do when you actually don’t know what you want to do should you scum down to the outside pressure or should you explore deep down yourself to find what you are actually passionate about.

As Robert Frost says “two roads diverge in the wood and I took the one less travelled by and that has made the difference”

life is like that part-3

What do you do when its best to let go?

Let go may not just imply relationship but rather a whole bunch of stuff. One can always let go of their darkest fear, there old clothes (remember each and every clothe has a special memory attached with it, whether its of you first date, the dress you wore on day of getting an award or maybe when you were so happy) or even your feelings.

Feelings are the biggest problem of the all. How exactly to let go of feelings?

The way you felt about anyone can it change when the person is changing or will it remain the same. I really get confuse even while thinking about it so how can I even apply in my real life.

I may be eccentric, egoistic or even have a whole bunch of attitude but sometimes you need to acknowledge the fact that I am a person first of all. And when I feel some way about you I truly do. There’s no hiding from that fact. But what happens when this feeling becomes obsession?

What is the perfect time to let go of your feelings so as to start enjoying your life and stop obsession?

Is there actually any way to stop chasing what you don’t get and enjoy what you do have? There are plenty of opportunities that life gives us but somehow we are always so busy that we fail to notice these things.

Like if someone has said no in return for your proposal what do you do? You simply have some faith leave that person for good and move on. There are 7 billion people in the world surely one person will be there just for you. Rejections are not the end of the world rather the starting of a beautiful life. Sometimes all we have to do is just let go of your feelings in hope there is something or someone better out there waiting just for you.

There might be always the risk of leaving the comfort zone that you have shared with that person and going into alien territory. But how much scary it may sound but still its better to live on your own terms rather than with someone who does not acknowledge the fact that you have wasted all your precious time on them.

So let go of your feelings and venture out in the wild for there might be someone out there who will reciprocate exactly what you need.

After all in reality no one grows up everyone just learns how to behave in public so let the child in you have fun. 

life is like that part-2

Everybody has bad habits, it’s just the definition of bad varies from person to person.

Some people may view drinking, smoking, drugs or gambling as bad habit for others it might be viewed as punctuality, possessiveness, competition or even over-thinking as a bad habit.

What exactly to do when someone suffers from the lateral ones??

You can easily go to a re-hab facility to quit smoking, drugs or even gambling but where exactly a person goes to stop the over-competitiveness??

What exactly do I do if I cannot sleep knowing the fact that someone out there whom I know is doing better than me?

It may sound weird but when you get into a habit of getting everything you want, you can suffer badly from competitiveness. It’s not overnight that one develops these habits, they are a cultivated for many years , it’s just when the water crosses over your head do you realize what is happing wrong , but at that moment you may be too far away to do anything except for surrendering yourself to it.

There are so many times people could not sleep just because of the competitiveness spirit in then. It all starts as a friendly sport when you are young and you parents knowingly or unknowingly say that look he has finished his cereal, so now quickly eat yours. And gradually the cereal is replaced by marks or college degree and then the job.

Infact its not actually parents fault. It’s just in the fast pace of life they do not want their child to be left out yet somehow this may be a cause of worry.

There are some great people in the world who knowingly or unknowingly gets this type of addiction – to be the first and best in the work they do. And trust me it’s very hard to let go of this.

No matter how much you try not to scumb to the pressure of competition you will in the end lose all control. Insomnia, depression, anxiety, over-aggression and what not? In fact I personally believe that such kind of addiction is the most hardest of all,

On the brighter side, the satisfaction of completing a job is tremendous, the amount of self confidence you get after completion or the happiness is out of the world. But somehow down the line you lose the people close to you. Sometimes it’s better to be defeated or to let other person win, just to prove that you value your relationship more than work.

But then again addiction is addiction whether of alcohol of winning.

JUST LIKE THAT

it was really about myself ....
thats what i thought....
but how could i not consider you..
even in my thoughts...
I was just an eccentric person...
untill you just came across...
it doesnot even matter now ..
The things that i used to care...
If i could just go back in time..
I would see a different me...
standing their, self absorbed..
Alone and lonely their i was..
not wanting a heart or a hand..
for i knew these seemed joy at first...
but shattered you apart...
For if i had known...
the significance of these....
i would have  found you always by my side...
you were their , right before me..
yet it took me so long to find you...
For if i known..
the significance of thee...
I would have altered my route...
I had so my options ...
yet i choose the difficult one...
for maybe it was my prejudice...
That kept me away..
for i had belived...
that our worlds were not meant to collide...
how could i have forgotten..
What destine beholds...
now here you are right besides me...
never wanting to quit..nor give away..
for you are my world ..
and thats all there is to say....

life is like that...part-1

Whenever I get into an argument with my mom about what lies ahead in my life , I can clearly see the difference of opinion between us. Normally we both easily agree on stuff except when it comes to our ideologies. Two different set of ideologies from two separate generations. My mom who has ideologies from 1980 and I have 2012 ideologies, she specially find it amusing when I tell her about the fact that today its common for us to get bored from people . Its not like that we people don’t have emotions but its just that as we get everything so easily that why somehow we have forgotten the value of things. With both our parents working most of the times its very easy to get stuff out of them just by a little emotional blackmail and they too give up as a result of the guilt feeling of not spending as much time with us as their parents specially mothers who used to be housewife’s did . All this generation needs is just to be a little smart. Coming back to the relationships which we totally consider to be disposable, its actually true .How many people do you know around yourself who is at present or in past not in relationship? The answer is a no most probably. Because now a days relationship are very common, Maybe because of the fact of loneliness that you feel out of your life. And the best part is that your parents know about the fact that you are in relationship. Gone are the days when these things were a taboo in the family.

Earlier I felt that I was the only weirdo who got bored of people maybe because of the fact that being a single child I was so used to be alone, and could not tolerate other people peeking a lot in my life. I like people but its better when there is a distance in relationship.  Its just that I like people when they take interest in my life but excessive of interest in my life may be perceived as stalking, which is creepy. Coming back to the topic I too like many people of my generation get bored with people in my life. No matter how close a friend you might be but somehow down the line I need break. Its not that I don’t like you but its just most of the times excess of even a good thing might be harmful. All I ask here is that after some times when we know a person very well so as even to predict its behavior there is no fun left in the relationship. I know relationships are not only about fun but about a whole lot of emotional crap. But common its just too early for such things or maybe I am saying all this because I have not found the perfect person. The perfect person as so perceived by a lot of people who are in committed relationship is just a myth, common you are just saying that as you have found someone okay type whom you believe is great for you just because you are not willing to take the risk .

Anyways what all I might say in the end its just that I believe that sometimes a little break in the relationship are good. Take a break maybe it will increase your love or maybe you will find someone better…lol